To forgive is not to forget. The merit lies in loving in spite of the vivid knowledge that one that must be loved is not a friend. There is not merit in loving an enemy when you forget him for a friend.
Sympathy is what you have for someone after they die, pity you have for someone when they don't have a date to the biggest dance of the year. Empathy is what I do to you when you judge me. Envy is having pity on yourself. Can you discern the rest for yourself?
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What this quote means
The quote contrasts different emotional responses to human experiences, emphasizing the complexity of feelings in various situations.
Mahatma Gandhi's quote highlights the nuanced nature of human emotions, contrasting sympathy, pity, empathy, and envy. Sympathy is reserved for ultimate tragedies like death, while pity is often superficial, felt towards someone lacking a social experience like a date. Empathy relates to deeper interpersonal feelings and is tied to individual judgment, whereas envy represents self-pity. The closing invitation to discern suggests the importance of understanding these emotions in broader contexts.
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In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion on understanding human emotions during a psychology course.
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