some mornings... I sit at the kitchen table shaking salt into the hairs on my arm, and a feeling shoves up in me: it's finished. Everything went past without me.
I have a tendency to coddle my sons because I want to keep them safe, but I also want them to be strong and independent and curious and bold, and I worry that my coddling is going to have exactly the opposite effect.
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What this quote means
The quote reflects the struggle of a parent wanting to protect their children while also fostering their independence and strength.
In this quote, Jennifer Egan expresses the internal conflict that many parents face: the desire to protect their children through nurturing and care (coddling) versus the need to let them grow strong, independent, and curious. Egan acknowledges that while her intentions are to safeguard her sons, there is a risk that overprotection might hinder their development into confident individuals, prompting reflection on the balance between safety and empowerment in parenting.
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In practice
Example use cases
In a parenting workshop to discuss the balance between nurturing and independence.
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