Boy lovers and the lesbians who have young lovers... are not child molesters. The child abusers are priests, teachers, therapists, cops and parents w…

- Patrick Califia

SM is an art. Doing it well requires more than a bag full of expensive whips and exotic electrical toys, a closet full of fetish clothes, or a baseme…

- Patrick Califia

When it comes to your inner critic, my advice is to not take advice from someone who doesn't like you. That's like returning to the perpetrator for h…

- Patrick Califia

This is one of the reasons we need to transition: people can't validate an identity they can't see.

- Patrick Califia

Prejudice usually can't survive close contact with the people who are supposed to be so despicable, which is why the propagandists for hate always pr…

- Patrick Califia

Why do I write? I write because I have to, because it is all I know, because it is my truth, because I am compelled, because I am driven to make the …

- Patrick Califia

When you're hurting another person, past a certain point you're cracking them open and whatever's inside them gets all over you. So you should kinda …

- Patrick Califia

As an activist, you gotta pick something that's particularly interesting to you and go for it - because there's no shortage of things to do. And it's…

- Patrick Califia

If you live in a society that wishes you didn't exist, anything you do to make yourself happy disrupts its attempts to wipe you out, or at the very l…

- Patrick Califia