Sadness is more or less like a head cold - with patience, it passes. Depression is like cancer.
There's such a gulf between yourself and who you were then, but people speak to that other person and it answers; it's like having a stranger as a house guest in your skin.
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What this quote means
This quote reflects on the changes people undergo over time and how their past selves can feel like strangers.
Barbara Kingsolver's quote explores the deep sense of change that occurs within individuals as they grow and evolve. It suggests that while we may have fundamentally changed from who we once were, the old thoughts and experiences can still resonate within us, leading to a disconnection between our past and present selves. The metaphor of having a 'stranger as a house guest in your skin' emphasizes the surreal feeling of recognizing our former selves but feeling distanced from them.
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Example use cases
This quote can be used during a motivational speech about personal growth.
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