The degree to which I can create relationships, which facilitate the growth of others as separate persons, is a measure of the growth I have achieved in myself.
Carl RogersRead
Though modern Marriage is a tremendous laboratory, its members are often without preparation for the partnership function. How much agony and remorse and failure could have been avoided if there had been at least some rudimentary learning before they entered the partnership.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Marriage requires preparation and understanding for success, which many lack.
Carl Rogers highlights the importance of proper preparation and education before entering marriage. He argues that many individuals embark on this significant partnership without the necessary skills or knowledge, leading to potential pain and failures that could have been mitigated through learning and understanding prior to the commitment.
Themes
MarriagePartnershipPreparationLearningRelationships
In practice
Example use cases
During a wedding speech, one could emphasize the importance of understanding each other before entering marriage.
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I have come to think that one of the most satisfying experiences I know — and also one of the most growth-promoting experiences for the other person — is just fully to appreciate this individual in the same way that I appreciate a sunset.
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In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?
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In a person who is open to experience each stimulus is freely relayed through the nervous system, without being distorted by any process of defensiveness.
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