The tighter you squeeze, the less you have.
Interpretation
Attempting to control or hold onto something too tightly can lead to losing it entirely.
This quote by Thomas Merton highlights the paradox that comes with trying to control or possess things too aggressively. It suggests that when we are overly constrictive and forceful in our pursuits, whether it be in relationships, goals, or material possessions, we may actually end up causing the very thing we desire to slip away from us. It serves as a reminder to approach life with a sense of openness and flexibility, rather than rigid control.
In practice
During a team meeting, you might say, 'Remember, the tighter you squeeze, the less you have' when discussing project management.
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