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She wondered if this was true of every parent: if, prior to having children, they all used to be someone else.
Jodi Picoult
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Every parent undergoes a transformation after having children, losing aspects of their former selves.

This quote reflects on the profound change that parenthood brings to an individual's identity. It suggests that before becoming parents, people often have their own distinct personalities, dreams, and lifestyles, which may shift significantly upon the arrival of children, leading them to feel as though they have become different or 'someone else.'

Themes

ParenthoodIdentityTransformationChangeFamily

In practice

Example use cases

During a parental advice seminar, this quote can highlight the identity changes that come with becoming a parent.

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