QuoteProject
He insists on a version of you that is funnier, stranger, more eccentric and prfound thatn you suspect yourself to be--capable of doing more good and more harm in the world than you've ever imagined--it is all but impossible not to believe, at least in his presence and a while after you've left him, that he alone sees through your essence, weighs your true qualities . . . and appreciates you more fully than anyone else ever has.
Michael Cunningham
ShareWTF𝕏

Interpretation

What this quote means

This quote emphasizes the profound impact a person can have by seeing and appreciating the deeper qualities in another, beyond their self-perception.

The quote suggests that certain individuals possess an extraordinary ability to recognize and appreciate the true essence of others. When someone sees you in a light that reveals your humor, uniqueness, and potential for good or harm, it can transform your self-perception and inspire you to live up to that vision. This dynamic interaction fosters a sense of validation and understanding, encouraging you to explore the facets of yourself that you may have underestimated.

Themes

Self-PerceptionAppreciationRelationshipsIdentityImpact

In practice

Example use cases

In a motivational talk about personal growth, this quote could illustrate the power of supportive relationships.

More from Michael Cunningham

We throw our parties; we abandon our families to live alone in Canada; we struggle to write books that do not change the world, despite our gifts and our unstinting efforts, our most extravagant hopes. We live our lives, do whatever we do, and then we sleep--it's as simple and ordinary as that. A few jump out of windows or drown themselves or take pills; more die by accident; and most of us, the vast majority, are slowly devoured by some disease or, if we're very fortunate, by time itself.
Michael CunninghamRead
You have started the book with this bubble over your head that contains a cathedral full of fire - that contains a novel so vast and great and penetrating and bright and dark that it will put all other novels ever written to shame. And then, as you get towards the end, you begin to realise, no, it's just this book.
Michael CunninghamRead
Language in fiction is made up of equal parts meaning and music. The sentences should have rhythm and cadence, they should engage and delight the inner ear.
Michael CunninghamRead
What does it mean to regret when you have no choice? It's what you can bear. And there it is... It was death. I chose life.
Michael CunninghamRead
The only difference was one of them was trying to make a perfect cake and one of them was trying to write a great book. But if we remove that from the equation, it's the same impulse and they are equally entitled to their ecstasies and their despair.
Michael CunninghamRead
There is just this for consolation: an hour here or there, when our lives seem, against all odds and expectations, to burst open and give us everything we've ever imagined , though everyone but children (and perhaps even they) knows these hours will inevitably be followed by others, far darker and more difficult. Still, we cherish the city, the morning, we hope, more than anything, for more. Heaven only knows why we love it so.
Michael CunninghamRead

Similar quotes

One of the most important lessons to learn about relationships is that it is not another person’s job to make you happy. Your happiness is not someone else’s job. Until you realize this, you will always be dissatisfied with your relationships. Ultimately, your relationship with others mirrors your relationship to happiness.
Robert HoldenRead
But if you tame me, my life will be filled with sunshine. I'll know the sound of footsteps that will be different from all the rest. Others send me back underground. Yours will call me out of my burrow like music.
Antoine De Saint-ExuperyRead
Once we make our relationship choices in an adult way, a prospective partner who is unavailable, nonreciprocal, or not open to processing feelings and issues, becomes, by those very facts, unappealing. Once we love ourselves, people no longer look good to us unless they are good for us.
David RichoRead
I wondered if she was trying to convey something to me, something she could not put into words - something prior to words that she could not grasp within herself and which therefore had no hope of ever turning into words.
Haruki MurakamiRead
It is astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens, how confusions that seem irremediable turn into relatively clear flowing streams when one is heard.
Carl RogersRead
It is only in marriage with the world that our ideals can bear fruit; divorced from it, they remain barren.
Bertrand RussellRead

A little wisdom, now and then

Subscribe for the occasional hand-picked quote. No noise.