We throw our parties; we abandon our families to live alone in Canada; we struggle to write books that do not change the world, despite our gifts and our unstinting efforts, our most extravagant hopes. We live our lives, do whatever we do, and then we sleep--it's as simple and ordinary as that. A few jump out of windows or drown themselves or take pills; more die by accident; and most of us, the vast majority, are slowly devoured by some disease or, if we're very fortunate, by time itself.
He insists on a version of you that is funnier, stranger, more eccentric and prfound thatn you suspect yourself to be--capable of doing more good and more harm in the world than you've ever imagined--it is all but impossible not to believe, at least in his presence and a while after you've left him, that he alone sees through your essence, weighs your true qualities . . . and appreciates you more fully than anyone else ever has.
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What this quote means
This quote emphasizes the profound impact a person can have by seeing and appreciating the deeper qualities in another, beyond their self-perception.
The quote suggests that certain individuals possess an extraordinary ability to recognize and appreciate the true essence of others. When someone sees you in a light that reveals your humor, uniqueness, and potential for good or harm, it can transform your self-perception and inspire you to live up to that vision. This dynamic interaction fosters a sense of validation and understanding, encouraging you to explore the facets of yourself that you may have underestimated.
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Example use cases
In a motivational talk about personal growth, this quote could illustrate the power of supportive relationships.
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