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When we make ourselves vulnerable, we do open ourselves to pain, sometimes excruciating pain. The more people we love, the more we are liable to be hurt, and not only by the people we love, but for the people we love.
Madeleine L'Engle
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Vulnerability in love invites both joy and suffering.

This quote suggests that opening ourselves up to love requires a willingness to be vulnerable, which can lead to pain. The deeper our connections, the greater the risk of suffering, not just from the loved ones themselves but also from the emotional burden we bear for them.

Themes

VulnerabilityLovePainRelationshipsHurt

In practice

Example use cases

In a speech about the importance of emotional openness in relationships.

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