What I refuse to face within myself will meet me in the exterior world through you, not as you are, but as I have so construed you.

- James Hollis

The truth about intimate relationships is that they can never be any better than our relationship with ourselves.

- James Hollis

The act of consciousness is central; otherwise we are overrun by the complexes. The hero in each of us is required to answer the call of individuat…

- James Hollis

We serve the world by finding out what feeds us, and, having been fed, then share our gifts with others.

- James Hollis

We are all meaning-seeking, meaning creating creatures and when we experience the loss of meaning, we suffer.

- James Hollis

To become a person does not necessarily mean to be well adjusted, well adapted, approved of by others. It means to become who you are. We are meant t…

- James Hollis

We best serve intimate relationship by becoming sufficiently developed in ourselves that we do not need to feed off others.

- James Hollis

Learning to live with ambiguity is learning to live with how life really is, full of complexities and strange surprises.

- James Hollis

The purpose of therapy is not to remove suffering but to move through it to an enlarged consciousness that can sustain the polarity of painful opposi…

- James Hollis