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Some words have to be explicitly uttered, Lenore. Only by actually uttering certain words does one really DO what one SAYS. 'Love' is one of those words, performative words. Some words can literally make things real.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the significance of verbally expressing certain words, especially 'love', to make them truly meaningful and real.
David Foster Wallace underscores the idea that spoken words hold a unique power, particularly those that convey deep emotions or commitments like love. He suggests that some words require verbal expression to resonate with authenticity and impact, thereby turning mere thoughts or feelings into tangible realities. This perspective highlights the performative nature of language in human relationships.
Themes
LoveWordsExpressionAuthenticityRelationships
In practice
Example use cases
In a wedding ceremony, expressing vows and declaring love for one another.
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