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When he was young, he had thought love had something to do with understanding, but with age he knew that no human being understood another. Love was the wish to understand, and presently with constant failure the wish died, and love died too perhaps or changed into this painful affection, loyalty, pity.
Graham Greene
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Love involves a desire for understanding, but as we grow older, we realize true understanding between people is often unattainable.

In this quote, Graham Greene reflects on the evolution of one's understanding of love from youth to adulthood. Initially, he believed that love was rooted in mutual understanding between individuals, but through the experiences of life, he recognizes that such understanding is elusive. This realization leads to a transformation of love, which may fade or morph into feelings of loyalty, pity, or pain. Ultimately, Greene suggests that the essence of love is intertwined with the desire to understand, even if complete comprehension remains out of reach.

Themes

LoveUnderstandingHumanityRelationshipsPain

In practice

Example use cases

In a speech about the nature of love and relationships, one might use this quote to illustrate the complexities of affection.

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