Occupation: Professor Birth: June 7, 1945
Part of the reason images of women in positions of authority are marked by their gender is that the very notion of authority is associated with malen….
We tend to look through language and not realize how much power language has.
Treating people the same is not equal treatment if they are not the same..
Cooperation isn't the absence of conflict but a means of managing conflict..
Like most men, my father is interested in action. And this is why he disappoints my mother when she tells him she doesn't feel well and he offers to ….
The biggest mistake is believing there is one right way to listen, to talk, to have a conversation - or a relationship..
Male-female conversation is cross-cultural communication.
Many men honestly do not know what women want, and women honestly do not know why men find what they want so hard to comprehend and deliver..
To say that a person feels listened to means a lot more than just their ideas get heard. It's a sign of respect. It makes people feel valued..
More men feel comfortable doing "public speaking," while more women feel comfortable doing "private" speaking..
All communication is more or less cross-cultural. We learn to use language as we grow up, and growing up in different parts of the country, having di….
The desire for freedom and independence becomes more of an issue for many men in relationships, whereas interdependence and connection become more of….
Public discourse requires making an argument for a point of view, not having an argument - as in having a fight..
Girls are not accustomed to jockeying for status in an obvious way; they are more concerned that they be liked..
Each person's life is lived as a series of conversations..
Saying that men talk about baseball in order to avoid talking about their feelings is the same as saying that women talk about their feelings in orde….
For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships..
Words can be like weapons of destruction: It takes so much effort, and the cooperation of so many people, to build something - and so little effort o….
Though all humans need both intimacy and independence, women tend to focus on the first and men on the second. It is as if their lifeblood ran in dif….
The key to conversation at work is flexibility and understanding how what you say might be perceived by others..
Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence.