We'll always be disappointed if we believe that we can plan for a peak experience and make it happen. True joy can't be anticipated or planned. It ju….

Although the connections are not always obvious, personal change is inseparable from social and political change..

Many people value criticism in the early stage of a relationship, but become allergic to it over time. Remember this: No one can survive in a marriag….

Feeling essentially superior to other people is as sure a sign of poor self-esteem as feeling essentially inferior..

I'd say that while it's normal to long for an apology, if you really need it, you're not ready to speak to whoever harmed you. Non-apologizers tend t….

As long as we can feel hope, there is hope..

Every time I open Facebook, I see a post with something like, "We must forgive or be prisoners of our own bitterness and hate." People think that for….

What initially attracts us and what later becomes 'the problem' are usually one and the same..

If you're married to an entrenched non-apologizer, it won't help to doggedly demand one. Some folks lack the self-esteem required to take responsibil….

Judging people for whom they love (a same sex partner) rather than by whom they harm, should in itself merit a psychiatric diagnosis..

Being able to make a sincere apology - one that says, "Yes, I get it; I screwed up. Your feelings make sense, and I'm taking this seriously" - is at ….

When anxiety disrupts functioning, it's psychiatric illness..

Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to..

Before modern feminism, stories of female ambition were silenced or erased; even now, they are told with apology ("Yes, it's a great honor to be a No….

Silence can pose a greater threat than the difficult truth..

Through words we come to know the other person--and to be known. This knowing is at the heart of our deepest longings for intimacy and connection wit….

Request an apology when you believe you deserve one, but don't get in a tug of war about it. Instead, be a role model and tender a genuine apology yo….

People marry with a deep longing that their partner will tend to their wounds, not throw salt in them. Honor your partner's vulnerability..

Anger is neither legitimate nor illegitimate, meaningful nor pointless. Anger simply is. To ask, "Is my anger legitimate?" is similar to asking, "Do ….

Wherever you find a wife and mother-in-law slugging it out, you'll find a son who's not speaking up to either his mother or his wife..

We begin to change the dynamic of our relationships as we are able to share our reactions to others without holding them responsible for causing our ….