If you pursue a distancer, he or she will distance more. Consider it a fundamental law of physics..

Often when someone apologizes - like a parent who says to a child, "I'm very sorry I neglected you when you were a kid" - they also ask, "Do you forg….

Being who we are requires that we can talk openly about things that are important to us, that we take a clear position on where we stand on important….

It's a cliché, but also a deep truth (as cliché's tend to be), that you can't love another person very well if you don't love yourself..

We need to hear the sound of our voice for what we think and need..

Anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is calm..

Marriage is the lightning rod that absorbs anxiety and stress from all other sources, past and present. When marriage has a firm foundation of solid ….

Men are often (though not always) the pursuers for sex, just like women are often (though not always) the pursuers for conversation..

Underground issues from one relationship or context invariably fuel our fires in another..

The more we seek exclusivity in friendship, the more it becomes obligatory and the less likely it is to fulfill the wonderful vision of what true fri….

Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses..

Telling a true story about personal experience is not just a matter of being oneself, or even or finding oneself. It is also a matter of choosing one….

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others. . . .If, however, we do not….

Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all..

Love alone is never a good enough reason to marry..

Your children are not little mirrors reflecting back the good or bad job you've done..

Being in touch with our bodies, or more accurately, being our bodies, is how we know what is true. Harriet.

The bolder and more courageous you are, the more you will learn about yourself..

You can't evaluate a prospective partner if you insulate your relationship from your family and friends--and his..

In long-term relationships ... we are called upon to navigate that delicate balance between separateness and connectedness ... we confront the challe….

Throughout evolutionary history, anxiety and fear have helped every species to be wary and to survive. Fear can signal us to act, or, alternatively, ….