We pick out a text here and there to make it serve our turn; whereas , if we take it all together, and considered what went before and what followed after, we should find it meant no such thing.
John SeldenRead
Of all the actions of a man's life, his marriage does least concern other people, yet of all the actions of our lives, 'tis the most meddled with by other people.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Marriage is a personal commitment that affects individuals most, yet it is often scrutinized and judged by others.
This quote by John Selden highlights the paradox of marriage: while it is a deeply personal relationship primarily affecting the couple involved, it also seems to attract the most external attention and influence. The essence of commitment between partners is often overshadowed by societal opinions and expectations, suggesting that personal choices can become public subjects of discussion and intervention.
Themes
MarriageRelationshipsSocietyCommitmentJudgment
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about marriage dynamics during a relationship seminar.
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