Associate with the noblest people you can find; read the best books; live with the mighty; but learn to be happy alone.
Saul BellowRead
When we ask for advice, we are usually looking for an accomplice.
Interpretation
People often seek advice not for genuine guidance, but to confirm what they already want to do.
This quote by Saul Bellow highlights a common human tendency to seek validation for our decisions rather than objective advice. When we ask for advice, we often have a preconceived notion or desire, and we look for support from others to align with our viewpoint instead of truly considering alternative perspectives or wisdom that might challenge our desires.
In practice
During a team meeting, I could use this quote to illustrate how we sometimes seek advice to support our ideas rather than considering all options.
Associate with the noblest people you can find; read the best books; live with the mighty; but learn to be happy alone.
In here, the human bosom -- mine, yours, everybody's -- there isn't just one soul. There's a lot of souls. But there are two main ones, the real soul and a pretender soul. Now! Every man realizes that he has to love something or somebody. He feels that he must go outward. 'If thou canst not love, what art thou?' Are you with me?
I've discovered that rejections are not altogether a bad thing. They teach a writer to rely on his own judgment and to say in his heart of hearts, 'To hell with you.'
I see that I've become a really bad correspondent. It's not that I don't think of you. You come into my thoughts often. But when you do it appears to me that I owe you a particularly grand letter. And so you end in the "warehouse of good intentions": "Can't do it now." "Then put it on hold." This is one's strategy for coping with old age, and with death--because one can't die with so many obligations in storage. Our clever species, so fertile and resourceful in denying its weaknesses.
A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep.
Goodness is achieved not in a vacuum, but in the company of other men, attended by love.
All women together ought to let flowers fall upon the tomb of Aphra Behn, for it was she who earned them the right to speak their minds.
We are all geniuses up to the age of ten.
Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?
What a pity that Bilbo did not stab that vile creature, when he had a chance!' Pity? It was Pity that stayed his hand. Pity, and Mercy: not to strike without need. And he has been well rewarded, Frodo. Be sure that he took so little hurt from the evil, and escaped in the end, because he began his ownership of the Ring so. With Pity.
. . . Virtue, morality, and religion. This is the armor, my friend, and this alone that renders us invincible. These are the tactics we should study. If we lose these, we are conquered, fallen indeed . . . so long as our manners and principles remain sound, there is no danger.
I never waste time looking back.
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