Love is generally confused with dependence; but in point of fact, you can love only in proportion to your capacity for independence.
Rollo MayRead
We are anxious because we do not know what roles to pursue, what principles for action to believe in. Our individual anxiety, somewhat like that of the nation, is a basic confusion and bewilderment about where we are going.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Anxiety stems from uncertainty regarding our roles and guiding principles in life.
This quote by Rollo May highlights the root of anxiety as a lack of clarity about our purpose and values. It suggests that both individual and collective anxiety arise from confusion about direction, emphasizing the importance of understanding our roles and the principles that guide our actions.
Themes
AnxietyPurposeUnderstandingConfusionDirection
In practice
Example use cases
Discussing the challenges of college freshmen who feel lost about their future.
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