A dogmatic belief in objective value is necessary to the very idea of a rule which is not tyranny or an obedience which is not slavery.
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Aravis also had many quarrels (and, I'm afraid, even fights) with Cor, but they always made it up again: so that years later, when they were grown up, they were so used to quarrelling and making it up again that they got married so as to go on doing it more conveniently.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote illustrates how the ups and downs of a relationship can lead to a deeper connection and commitment.
C. S. Lewis describes a dynamic relationship characterized by quarrels and reconciliations between two individuals, Aravis and Cor. Their frequent conflicts, rather than driving them apart, become a rhythm of their connection, culminating in marriage. This suggests that the process of resolving differences can strengthen a bond, rendering it more profound and stable over time.
Themes
QuarrelsReconciliationRelationshipsLoveCommitment
In practice
Example use cases
This quote could be used during a wedding speech to highlight the importance of overcoming challenges in a marriage.
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