We tend to look through language and not realize how much power language has

- Deborah Tannen

Part of the reason images of women in positions of authority are marked by their gender is that the very notion of authority is associated with malen…

- Deborah Tannen

Like most men, my father is interested in action. And this is why he disappoints my mother when she tells him she doesn't feel well and he offers to …

- Deborah Tannen

The biggest mistake is believing there is one right way to listen, to talk, to have a conversation - or a relationship.

- Deborah Tannen

Cooperation isn't the absence of conflict but a means of managing conflict.

- Deborah Tannen

Treating people the same is not equal treatment if they are not the same.

- Deborah Tannen

Male-female conversation is cross-cultural communication

- Deborah Tannen

Many men honestly do not know what women want, and women honestly do not know why men find what they want so hard to comprehend and deliver.

- Deborah Tannen

To say that a person feels listened to means a lot more than just their ideas get heard. It's a sign of respect. It makes people feel valued.

- Deborah Tannen