We cannot protect our children from life. Therefore, it is essential to prepare them for it. Feeling sorry for children is one of the most seriously damaging attitudes we can have. It so greatly demonstrates to them and to ourselves that we lack faith in them and their ability to cope with adversities.
Interpretation
We must teach children to handle life's challenges instead of shielding them from difficulties.
Rudolf Dreikurs emphasizes the importance of preparing children for the realities of life rather than overly protecting them. He argues that feeling sorry for children can harm their development, as it implies a lack of belief in their capacity to face and overcome challenges. By equipping them with the skills to manage life's adversities, we instill confidence and resilience in their character.
In practice
In a parenting seminar discussing childhood development.
When a child makes a mistake or fails to accomplish a certain goal, we must avoid any word or action which indicates that we consider him a failure. 'Too bad that didn't work.' 'I'm sorry it didn't work out for you.' We need to separate the deed from the doer.
Writing/reading is like visiting another person's brain. And a short book or article is like a short stay. You come in, have a coffee, talk about the weather or sports, and then move on.
There are books that one reads over and over again, books that become part of the furniture of one's mind and alter one's whole attitude to life, books that one dips into but never reads through, books that one reads at a single sitting and forgets a week later.
All I know for certain is that reading is of the most intense importance to me; if I were not able to read, to revisit old favorites and experiment with names new to me, I would be starved - probably too starved to go on writing myself.
My contention is, all kids have tremendous talents. And we squander them, pretty ruthlessly.
Just once in a while let us exalt the importance of ideas and information.
Television is a non graded curriculum and excludes no viewer for any reason, at any time. In other words, in doing away wtih the idea of sequenece and continuity in education, television undermines the idea that sequence and continuity have anything to do with thought itself.
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