The academic bias against subjectivity not only forces our students to write poorly ("It is believed...," instead of, "I believe..."), it deforms their thinking about themselves and their world. In a single stroke, we delude our students into believing that bad prose turns opinions into facts and we alienate them from their own inner lives.
The deeper our faith, the more doubt we must endure; the deeper our hope, the more prone we are to despair; the deeper our love, the more pain its loss will bring: these are a few of the paradoxes we must hold as human beings. If we refuse to hold them in the hopes of living without doubt, despair, and pain, we also find ourselves living without faith, hope, and love.
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote reflects the idea that experiencing deep emotions also brings the risk of pain and doubt.
Parker J. Palmer's quote expresses the notion that with profound feelings of faith, hope, and love comes the inevitable presence of doubt, despair, and potential loss. It suggests that these opposing forces are an intrinsic part of the human experience; one cannot exist fully in one without acknowledging the other. To wish for a life devoid of pain is to also forsake the richness that faith, hope, and love bring to our lives. Embracing these paradoxes allows for a fuller, more authentic human existence.
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Example use cases
This quote can be shared during a discussion about the complexities of human emotions at a support group.
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