We can come to look upon the deaths of our enemies with as much regret as we feel for those of our friends, namely, when we miss their existence as witnesses to our success.
Arthur SchopenhauerRead
To be shocked at how deeply rejection hurts is to ignore what acceptance involves. We must never allow our suffering to be compounded by suggestions that there is something odd in suffering so deeply. There would be something amiss if we didn't.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Rejection is painful, and it's important to acknowledge that suffering is a natural response to it.
Arthur Schopenhauer highlights the emotional depth of rejection and emphasizes that it is a typical human experience to feel pain when rejected. He argues that instead of feeling strange about our deep suffering, we should recognize that such feelings signify our capacity to accept and value connections with others.
Themes
RejectionAcceptanceSufferingRelationshipsEmotion
In practice
Example use cases
Using this quote in a motivational speech about overcoming heartbreak.
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