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The denigration of those we love always detaches us from them in some degree. Never touch your idols: the gilding will stick to your fingers.
Gustave Flaubert
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Criticizing loved ones can create distance in relationships, and idealizing them can lead to disappointment.

Gustave Flaubert eloquently expresses the idea that speaking negatively about those we care for can weaken our bond with them. Additionally, he warns against idolizing people, suggesting that such reverence can lead to a disillusionment that affects our perception of them and ourselves.

Themes

RelationshipsLoveCriticismIdolsPerception

In practice

Example use cases

This quote can be used during a relationship counseling session to discuss the impact of criticism.

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