You fall out of your mother's womb, you crawl across open country under fire, and drop into your grave.
Quentin CrispRead
The consuming desire of most human beings is deliberately to plant their whole life in the hands of some other person. I would describe this method of searching for happiness as immature. Development of character consists solely in moving toward self-sufficiency.
Interpretation
What this quote means
People often seek happiness through reliance on others, which is seen as an immature approach. True character development comes from achieving self-sufficiency.
In this quote, Quentin Crisp highlights the common tendency among humans to seek happiness by depending on others, which he considers an immature way of finding fulfillment. He emphasizes that true personal growth and character development stem from cultivating self-sufficiency and independence, encouraging individuals to take responsibility for their own happiness rather than relying on external sources.
Themes
HappinessSelf-SufficiencyIndependenceCharacterPersonal Growth
In practice
Example use cases
In a motivational speech about personal development.
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