We live with a distinct double standard about male and female aggression. Women's aggression isn't considered real. It isn't dangerous; it's only cute. Or it's always self-defense or otherwise inspired by a man. In the rare case where a woman is seen as genuinely responsible, she is branded a monster - an 'unnatural' woman.
Interpretation
The quote highlights the societal double standards surrounding male and female aggression, suggesting that women's aggression is often undermined or mischaracterized.
Katherine Dunn's quote critiques the prevailing societal attitudes that trivialize or invalidate women's expressions of aggression, often viewing them through a lens of affection or as reactions to male influence. It emphasizes that when women are viewed as genuinely aggressive, they face harsh judgment, being labeled as monstrous or unnatural, which reveals deep-seated biases in how society differentiates between male and female behavior.
In practice
In a discussion on gender roles, this quote can illustrate the differences in how aggression is perceived based on gender.
Can you be happy with the movies, and the ads, and the clothes in the stores, and the doctors, and the eyes as you walk down the street all telling you there is something wrong with you? No. You cannot be happy. Because, you poor darling baby, you believe them.
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It never occurred to him to be spiritually won over to the enemy. Many moderns, inured to a weak worship of intellect and force, might have wavered in their allegiance under this oppression of a great personality. . . . But this was a kind of modern meanness to which Syme could not sink even in his extreme morbidity. Like any man, he was coward enough to fear great force; but he was not coward enough to admire it.
Man is the only animal that can remain on friendly terms with the victims he intends to eat until he eats them.
Many persons nowadays seem to think that any conclusion must be very scientific if the arguments in favor of it are derived from twitching of frogs' legs (especially if the frogs are decapitated) and that, on the other hand, any doctrine chiefly vouched for by the feelings of human beings (with heads on their shoulders) must be benighted and superstitious.
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Death be not proud, though some have called thee Mighty and dreadful, for thou art not so. For, those, whom thou think'st thou dost overthrow. Die not, poor death, nor yet canst thou kill me.
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