A dogmatic belief in objective value is necessary to the very idea of a rule which is not tyranny or an obedience which is not slavery.
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"Don't bother too much about your feelings. When they are humble, loving, brave, give thanks for them; when they are conceited, selfish, cowardly, ask to have them altered. In neither case are they you, but only a thing that happens to you. What matters is your intentions and your behavior
Interpretation
What this quote means
Feelings are transient and do not define who you are; focus instead on your intentions and actions.
C. S. Lewis emphasizes that our feelings, whether they are positive or negative, do not define our true selves. Instead of letting emotions dictate our identity, we should strive to understand that they are simply experiences we encounter. The focus should be on what we intend to do and how we behave, as these reflect our true character and purpose in life.
Themes
FeelingsIntentionsBehaviorWisdomSelf-Awareness
In practice
Example use cases
During a workshop on emotional intelligence, this quote can be used to highlight the importance of understanding one's emotions.
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