We all live in suspense, from day to day, from hour to hour; in other words, we are the hero of our own story.
Mary MccarthyRead
I suppose everyone continues to be interested in the quest for the self, but what you feel when you're older, I think, is that ... you really must make the self. It is absolutely useless to look for it, you won't find it, but it's possible in some sense to make it. I don't mean in the sense of making a mask, a Yeatsian mask. But you finally begin in some sense to make and choose the self you want.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quest for self-identity involves actively creating who we are rather than passively searching for an innate self.
In this quote, Mary McCarthy emphasizes that instead of passively searching for one's true self, individuals should take an active role in defining and creating their own identity. As people age, they come to realize that self-identity is not something to be discovered but rather something that can be constructed through choices and experiences, enabling personal growth and authenticity.
Themes
SelfIdentityCreationChoiceAuthenticity
In practice
Example use cases
During a personal development workshop, to emphasize the importance of self-creation.
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