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If I fulfill YOUR expectations, how am I going to transform you? I have to DESTROY your expectations. I have to destroy the very mind that creates those expectations. If you come to me, never come with expectations, otherwise you will be disappointed - because I have no obligation to fulfill your expectations in any way. In fact, if I see that there are some expectations, I do things DELIBERATELY to destroy those expectations. That is the price you have to pay to be with me.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the importance of letting go of expectations in relationships to foster genuine transformation.
Rajneesh's quote discusses the detrimental effects of expectations on personal growth and relationships. He asserts that to facilitate real change, one must abandon preconceived notions of how others should behave or what they should provide. By highlighting the need to destroy such expectations, he suggests that true connection and transformation can only occur when individuals accept each other without conditions and are open to the experiences that arise from that freedom.
Themes
ExpectationsTransformationRelationshipsFreedomDisappointment
In practice
Example use cases
During a lecture on personal development, to illustrate the need for open-mindedness.
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