Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life's cruelest irony.
Douglas CouplandRead
My own experience with being interviewed is mixed. I suppose they're a part of my job, and as I would like readers to connect with my books, I do them. I've also made many lifelong friends whom I first encountered as interviewers - as a writer, they're a terrific way to meet and add smart new people to one's life.
Interpretation
Interviews can be both a professional obligation and an opportunity to form meaningful connections.
In this quote, Douglas Coupland reflects on his mixed feelings about interviews, acknowledging that while they are an expected aspect of his job as a writer, they also serve as a valuable means to connect with new and interesting people, many of whom become lifelong friends. This perspective highlights the dual nature of professional interactions, where obligation meets opportunity for personal growth and connection.
In practice
This quote could be shared before a panel discussion at a writers' conference to encourage networking.
Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life's cruelest irony.
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How one hates to think of oneself as alone. How one avoids it. It seems to imply rejection or unpopularity.
He breathed out the bitter air that makes women doubt everything, and I breathed it in, as I had always done. I expelled my dust, the powder of everything I had destroyed with doubt, and he pulled it into his lungs.
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People come, people go – they’ll drift in and out of your life, almost like characters in a favorite book. When you finally close the cover, the characters have told their story and you start up again with another book, complete with new characters and adventures. Then you find yourself focusing on the new ones, not the ones from the past.
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When I was little, my friends would gush over wedding gowns and honeymoons. But I saw too many people flush decades together down the toilet over money or kids or meaningless flings. My own parents chose to stay married, which I think is rather funny, since they show about as much affection for each other as pit bulls in a ring. Tying the knot means slipping a noose around love and choking it to death.
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