Manners are like zero in arithmetic. They may not be much in themselves, but they are capable of adding a great deal of value to everything else.
All the feeling which my father could not put into words was in his hand-any dog, child or horse would recognize the kindness of it.
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote emphasizes the unspoken emotional connections and kindness that can be felt through gestures rather than words.
Freya Stark's quote illustrates the profound way in which kindness is often communicated non-verbally, particularly through simple gestures. It suggests that, despite a lack of verbal expression, a person's true feelings can be conveyed through their actions, which can be recognized and appreciated by those who are sensitive to them, such as dogs, children, or horses. This speaks to the universal nature of kindness and the deep bonds that can form through emotional understanding.
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Example use cases
In a speech about compassion, one might quote this to emphasize non-verbal kindness.
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