Manners are like zero in arithmetic. They may not be much in themselves, but they are capable of adding a great deal of value to everything else.
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Perhaps the best function of parenthood is to teach the young creature to love with safety, so that it may be able to venture unafraid when later emotion comes; the thwarting of the instinct to love is the root of all sorrow and not sex only but divinity itself is insulted when it is repressed. To disapprove, to condemn the human soul shrivels under barren righteousness.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Parenthood teaches children the importance of safe love, preparing them for future emotional connections.
In this thoughtful quote, Freya Stark reflects on the essential role of parenthood in nurturing a child's ability to love freely and safely. She emphasizes that the ability to love is fundamental to human happiness and well-being, and that inhibiting this instinct ultimately leads to sorrow. Stark warns against the dangers of disapproval and condemnation, which can stifle the soul's capacity for love and emotional growth, suggesting that the true essence of divinity is found in the love we cultivate.
Themes
ParenthoodLoveEmotionSorrowNurturing
In practice
Example use cases
During a family gathering, when discussing the challenges of raising children, this quote can highlight the importance of fostering safe emotional connections.
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