She had borne so long the cruelty of belonging to him and not being claimed by him.
Being gay and being a woman has one big thing in common, which is that we both become invisible after the age of 42. Who wants a gay 50-year-old? No one, let me tell you.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote highlights societal invisibility faced by both women and gay men as they age, particularly after 42.
Rupert Everett's quote expresses a poignant observation about societal norms and biases regarding aging in two marginalized groups: women and gay men. It underscores how the influence of ageism can render individuals from these groups 'invisible,' suggesting that society places less value on them as they grow older. By pointing out the lack of desirability and attention for a gay man at 50, Everett reveals broader issues of acceptance, visibility, and the societal pressures surrounding age and identity.
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In practice
Example use cases
During a discussion on ageism in a women's conference.
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