Reality is a prison, where one vegetates and always will. All the rest - thought, action - is just a pastime, mental or physical. What counts then, is to come to grips with reality. The rest can go.
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Great lovers will always be unhappy, because, for them, love is of supreme importance. Consequently they demand of their beloved the same intensity of thought as they have for her, otherwise they feel betrayed.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Great lovers often find themselves unhappy due to their high expectations of love.
The quote by Cesare Pavese suggests that those who love deeply and passionately may experience dissatisfaction because they seek an equal level of commitment and intensity from their partners. When their beloved cannot match their profound engagement with love, it leads to feelings of betrayal and unhappiness.
Themes
LoveExpectationUnhappinessBetrayalIntensity
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about the complexities of relationships at a counseling session.
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