Artists are not cheerleaders, and we're not the heads of tourism boards. We expose and discuss what is problematic, what is contradictory, what is hurtful and what is silenced in the culture we're in.
Junot DiazRead
I'm still trying to figure out how to write about cancer and my family's experience with it. If I had been able to write 'The Pura Principle' back in those days, I'm positive it would have had no humor in it. Which means the story would have been false.
Interpretation
The quote reflects the struggle of writing authentically about difficult experiences like cancer, suggesting that humor can be an essential element of truth.
Junot Diaz's quote highlights the challenge of expressing profound personal experiences, particularly with something as painful as cancer. He suggests that writing about such topics without humor would result in an incomplete or inaccurate portrayal of the reality faced by him and his family, indicating that humor can help provide a necessary perspective in the midst of hardship.
In practice
In a public talk about grief and loss, I would share this quote to illustrate how humor can help cope with tough situations.
Artists are not cheerleaders, and we're not the heads of tourism boards. We expose and discuss what is problematic, what is contradictory, what is hurtful and what is silenced in the culture we're in.
Run a hand through your hair, like the white boys do, even though the only thing that runs easily through your hair is Africa.
I can see myself watching him shave every morning. And at other time I see us in that house and see how one bright day (or a day like this, so cold your mind shifts every time the wind does) he will wake up and decide it's all wrong. I'm sorry, he'll say. I have to leave now.
Migration gives a blank cheque to put anything you don't feel like addressing in the memory hold. No neighbours can go against the monster narrative of your family.
We all dream dreams of unity, of purity; we all dream that there's an authoritative voice out there that will explain things, including ourselves.
I think 90% of my ideas evaporate because I have a terrible memory and because I seem to be committed to not scribble anything down. As soon as I write it down, my mind rejects it.
Oh, darling, I've been so miserable.
Regrets and Mistakes, they're Memories made
The hardest thing about adolescence is that everything seems too big. There's no way to get context or perspective, ..... Pain and joy without limits. No one can live like that forever, so experience finally comes to our rescue. We come to know what we can endure, and also that nothing endures.
I don't think that because I'm not married it's made my life any less. That old maid myth is garbage.
Grief is accepting the reality of what is. That is grief's job and purpose-to allow us to come to terms with the way things really are, so that we can move on. Grief is a gift of God. Without it, we would all be condemned to a life of continually denying reality, arguing or protesting against reality, and never growing from the realities we experience.
I want to live and feel all the shades, tones, and variations of mental and physical experience possible in my life. And I am horribly limited.
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