If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?
Maya AngelouRead
I'm not sure if resilience is ever achieved alone. Experience allows us to learn from example. But if we have someone who loves us-I don't mean who indulges us, but who loves us enough to be on our side-then it's easier to grow resilience, to grow belief in self, to grow self-esteem. And it's self-esteem that allows a person to stand up.
Interpretation
Resilience is easier to build when supported by love and encouragement from others.
Maya Angelou emphasizes the importance of supportive relationships in developing resilience and self-esteem. While personal experiences teach us valuable lessons, having someone who truly loves and stands by us greatly facilitates our ability to grow, believe in ourselves, and ultimately stand up against life's challenges.
In practice
In a motivational speech about overcoming obstacles, a speaker could use this quote to highlight the role of support in personal growth.
If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?
I find it interesting that the meanest life, the poorest existence, is attributed to God's will, but as human beings become more affluent, as their living standard and style begin to ascend the material scale, God descends the scale of responsibility at commensurate speed.
The white American man makes the white American woman maybe not superfluous but just a little kind of decoration. Not really important to turning around the wheels of the state. Well the black American woman has never been able to feel that way. No black American man at any time in our history in the United States has been able to feel that he didn't need that black woman right against him, shoulder to shoulder-in that cotton field, on the auction block, in the ghetto, wherever.
I dreamt we walked together along the shore. We made satisfying small talk and laughed. This morning I found sand in my shoe and a seashell in my pocket. Was I only dreaming?
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I think Clinton, after getting into office and into Washington, was shocked at being bludgeoned. So he spent time trying to be all things to all people - one way guaranteed not to be successful or respected in a lion's den. You can't just play around with all those big cats - you've got to take somebody on.
Neither old people nor sour people seem to make friends easily; for there is little that is pleasant in them.
We wanted to test each other's capacity for survival: only if we had tried in vain to destroy one another would we know we were safe.
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My feminist training was that this was your goal, to be a self-sufficient woman, but that is a miscalculation. It's just not the way we work. We work in dialogue with the community.
What anger worse or slower to abate then lovers love when it turns to hate.
If you want to improve a relationship, it's not that you demand your spouse to change. You have to ask, 'Where did I fail in this relationship?'
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