The need to be right can arise from a fear of being disrespected. Or it may come out of the fear of being seen as we really are: as flawed human beings who are perfectly imperfect and full of contradictions and confusions.
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Intention is very important in sound, in listening. When I married my wife, I promised her I would listen to her every day as if for the first time. Now that's something I fall short of on a daily basis.
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote emphasizes the significance of intention in communication and the importance of actively listening to loved ones.
Julian Treasure highlights that intention plays a crucial role in how we engage with sound and listening. By promising to listen to his wife as if it were the first time each day, he acknowledges the challenge of maintaining that level of attention and presence in relationships, recognizing the effort it takes to truly connect with others.
Themes
IntentionListeningCommunicationRelationshipsCommitment
In practice
Example use cases
During a wedding speech, to emphasize the importance of listening in a marriage.
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