Sadness is more or less like a head cold - with patience, it passes. Depression is like cancer.
Barbara KingsolverRead
But kids don't stay with you if you do it right. It's the one job where, the better you are, the more surely you won't be needed in the long run.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Great parenting prepares children for independence, making them less reliant on their parents as they grow.
This quote from Barbara Kingsolver highlights the paradox of parenting: the goal of being a good parent is to raise children who are capable and independent, which ultimately means they will not need to rely on their parents as they mature. The essence of effective parenting lies in empowering children to find their own paths in life, even though this may lead to feelings of loss for the parents once their children have achieved that independence.
Themes
ParentingIndependenceChildrenGrowthFamily
In practice
Example use cases
During a parenting seminar, this quote could be used to illustrate the ultimate goal of parenting.
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