I am a person who continually destroys the possibilities of a future because of the numbers of alternative viewpoints I can focus on the present.
At last I understood that the way over, or through this dilemma, the unease at writing about 'petty personal problems' was to recognize that nothing is personal, in the sense that it is uniquely one's own. Writing about oneself, one is writing about others, since your problems, pains, pleasures, emotions—and your extraordinary and remarkable ideas—can't be yours alone. [...] Growing up is after all only the understanding that one's unique and incredible experience is what everyone shares.
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What this quote means
This quote suggests that personal experiences are universal and shared among people, highlighting the interconnectedness of human emotions and struggles.
Doris Lessing reflects on the realization that individual experiences, often perceived as unique and personal, resonate with the broader human experience. Writing about one's own issues is not just a solitary endeavor; it connects with others who share similar feelings and challenges. The essence of growing up lies in understanding that what we perceive as our distinct problems are actually part of a collective journey, emphasizing empathy and shared humanity.
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This quote can be used in a motivational speech about the importance of empathy.
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All quotes →In the writing process, the more the story cooks, the better. The brain works for you even when you are at rest. I find dreams particularly useful. I myself think a great deal before I go to sleep and the details sometimes unfold in the dream.
Humanity's legacy of stories and storytelling is the most precious we have. All wisdom is in our stories and songs. A story is how we construct our experiences. At the very simplest, it can be: 'He/she was born, lived, died.' Probably that is the template of our stories - a beginning, middle, and end. This structure is in our minds.
There is a great line of women stretching out behind you into the past, and you have to seek them out and find them in yourself and be conscious of them.
The World War I, I'm a child of World War I. And I really know about the children of war. Because both my parents were both badly damaged by the war. My father, physically, and both mentally and emotionally. So, I know exactly what it's like to be brought up in an atmosphere of a continual harping on the war.
You should write, first of all, to please yourself. You shouldn't care a damn about anybody else at all. But writing can't be a way of life - the important part of writing is living. You have to live in such a way that your writing emerges from it.
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