Everybody must be managed. Queens must be managed. Kings must be managed, for men want managing almost as much as women, and that's saying a good deal.
Thomas HardyRead
To have lost is less disturbing than to wonder if we may possibly have won; and Eustacia could now, like other people at such a stage, take a standing-point outside herself, observe herself as a disinterested spectator, and think what a sport for Heaven this woman Eustacia was.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Accepting loss can be easier than pondering the possibilities of success.
This quote reflects on the emotional complexity of loss versus the uncertainty of potential victory. Eustacia, the character in the narrative, finds herself in a position where she can step back from her own experiences and view herself objectively, realizing that the struggles of her existence are almost an entertainment for the divine. It highlights the idea that sometimes acknowledging defeat is simpler than grappling with the haunting question of what might have been if the outcome had been different.
Themes
LossSuccessRegretPerspectiveLife
In practice
Example use cases
In a motivational speech about resilience, this quote could resonate with those facing setbacks.
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Her affection for him was now the breath and life of Tess's being; it enveloped her as a photosphere, irradiated her into forgetfulness of her past sorrows, keeping back the gloomy spectres that would persist in their attempts to touch her—doubt, fear, moodiness, care, shame. She knew that they were waiting like wolves just outside the circumscribing light, but she had long spells of power to keep them in hungry subjection there.
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The trees have inquisitive eyes, haven't they? -that is, seem as if they had. And the river says,-'Why do ye trouble me with your looks?' And you seem to see numbers of to-morrows just all in a line, the first of them the biggest and clearest, the others getting smaller and smaller as they stand further away; but they all seem very fierce and cruel and as if they said, 'I'm coming! Beware of me! Beware of me!
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