It's not like we wanted to talk about the fact that we're gay all the time, but the world has forced it to be an issue.
Interpretation
The quote expresses the frustration of having to address one's identity due to societal pressures.
John Grant's quote highlights how individuals from the LGBTQ+ community often feel compelled to discuss their sexual orientation not out of desire, but because society continues to stigmatize it as a pressing issue. This reflects the broader struggle against societal norms that demand constant justification or explanation of one's identity.
In practice
In a speech at a pride event to emphasize the importance of visibility.
I spent many years trying to fit in and do things the way I thought I was supposed to - trying to be perceived the way I thought people wanted to see me. I grew up in a very religious household and wasn't taught to feel comfortable or good about my sexuality, so it feels great to be able to say things the way I want to say them.
Are you learning me by heart, little Sara?" he said, stroking her hair. "No," she answered. "I know you by heart. You are inside my heart.
I remember talking to someone early on after I was sober about how I suddenly felt awkward at parties. They said, 'Well, you're supposed to. Everyone feels awkward at parties.' It's an appropriate feeling to feel.
Is it not true that no two human beings understand anything whatsoever about each other, that those who consider themselves bosom friends may be utterly mistaken about their fellow and, failing to realize this sad truth throughout a lifetime, weep when they read in the newspapers about his death?
Maybe I`m getting to the age when I`m starting to be senile or nostalgic or both, but people are so angry now. You used to be able to disagree with people and still be friends. Now you hear these talk shows, and everyone who believes differently from you is a moron and an idiot - both on the Right and the Left.
I think it's easy to mistake understanding for empathy - we want empathy so badly. Maybe learning to make that distinction is part of growing up. It's hard and ugly to know somebody can understand you without even liking you.
Intimate, loving, and enduring relationships with our family and close friends will be among the sources of the deepest joy in our lives.
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