I felt like we had stories about family loyalty; I didn't feel like we had stories about what to do when you felt that loyalty to your family was in conflict with loyalty to yourself.
Tara WestoverRead
I felt like I needed to come to terms with the decision I'd made to let go of my family. What do you do when you want to be loyal to your family but you feel that loyalty to them is in conflict somehow with loyalty to yourself?
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote reflects the struggle between familial loyalty and self-identity.
Tara Westover expresses a deep internal conflict faced when the values of loyalty to one's family clash with the need for personal autonomy. This tension highlights the challenges individuals may encounter in reconciling their familial obligations with their own beliefs and desires, ultimately questioning what it means to be true to oneself and one's background.
Themes
LoyaltyFamilyIdentityConflictSelf
In practice
Example use cases
During a family therapy session, this quote can help illustrate the struggle between family expectations and personal needs.
More from Tara Westover
All quotes →I had been educated in the rhythms of the mountain, rhythms in which change was never fundamental, only cyclical. The same sun appeared each morning, swept over the valley, and dropped behind the peak. The snows that fell in winter always melted in the spring.
Tara WestoverRead
We think love is noble, and in some ways, it is. But in some ways, it isn't. Love is just love. And sometimes people do terrible things because of it.
Tara WestoverRead
I was 17 the first time I set foot in a classroom, but 10 years later, I would graduate from Cambridge with a Ph.D. 'Educated' is the story of how I came by my education. It is also the story of how I lost my family.
Tara WestoverRead
I think that when memoir goes wrong, it goes wrong from too much memory, too much detail. It's about clearing all that away and just getting to the story.
Tara WestoverRead
Although my family attended the same church as everyone in our town, our religion was not the same. I could stand with my family or with the gentiles... but there was no foothold in between.
Tara WestoverRead
Similar quotes
No government can love a child, and no policy can substitute for a family's care. But at the same time, government can either support or undermine families as they cope with moral, social and economic stresses of caring for children.
Hillary ClintonRead
By and large, mothers and housewives are the only workers who do not have regular time off. They are the great vacationless class.
Anne Morrow LindberghRead
When my mother left home, her family sat shivah for her, more because my father was not Jewish than because he was black.
James McbrideRead
I have a deep tribal sense. I grew up in a synagogue that my ancestors built. I sat in the third row. My family was decent. They were good people; they were handshake people. So I never had a sense of rebellion.
Leonard CohenRead
Fatherhood is the best thing I ever did. It changes your perspective. You can write a book, you can make a movie, you can paint a painting, but having kids is really the most extraordinary thing I have taken on.
Brad PittRead
By their innocence and goodness, by their boundless capacity for forgiveness, and by the sheer power of their faith and hope, children redeem their parents, bringing out their best selves.
Cass SunsteinRead