Death is staring too long into the burning sun and the relief of entering a cool, dark room.
Elisabeth Kubler-RossRead
Lots of my dying patients say they grow in bounds and leaps, and finish all the unfinished business. But assisting a suicide is cheating them of these lessons, like taking a student out of school before final exams. That's not love, it's projecting your own unfinished business
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the importance of letting individuals experience their own journey, even in dying, rather than imposing our desires or fears on them.
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross suggests that facing death can lead to personal growth and closure, and that intervening in a patient's choice to end their life prematurely denies them valuable life lessons. By comparing assisted suicide to removing a student from school before finals, she argues that such actions often reflect our own unresolved issues rather than genuine concern for the patient’s well-being.
Themes
DeathGrowthLife LessonsAssisted SuicideLoveUnfinished Business
In practice
Example use cases
During a funeral speech, one might use this quote to emphasize the growth that can come from facing life's challenges.
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