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We receive love — from our children as well as others — not in proportion to our demands or sacrifices or needs, but roughly in proportion to our own capacity to love.
Rollo May
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Love is received based on our ability to give it, rather than our demands or needs.

This quote by Rollo May emphasizes that the love we receive from others, including our children, is not determined by how much we sacrifice or demand love from them. Instead, it highlights that love is relational and reflects our own capacity to love others authentically and openly. Thus, the quality and quantity of love we give directly influence the love we receive in return.

Themes

LoveCapacityRelationshipChildrenGiving

In practice

Example use cases

This quote can be shared during a parenting workshop to emphasize the importance of parental love.

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