We start making every child ambitious, and ambition means you cannot love; ambition is anti-love. Ambition needs fight, ambition needs struggle, ambition needs you to use others as a means.
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In love, for example - the so-called love - we are 'related.' We appear to be related. We create the fallacy of a relationship, but in fact we are just deceiving ourselves. The two will remain two. Howsoever near, the two will remain two. Even in sexual communion they will be two. This two-ness, this duality will never last. So a relationship is only creating a fallacious oneness. It is not there. Oneness can never exist between two selves. Oneness can only exist between two no-selves.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote suggests that true oneness in love is a fallacy, as individuals remain distinct entities even in intimate relationships.
Rajneesh emphasizes that while love often creates an illusion of unity between two individuals, in reality, each person remains fundamentally separate. The concept of oneness in a relationship is a misleading perception, as true oneness can only be found in the absence of the ego or individuality, which he refers to as 'no-selves'. This highlights the complexity of human relationships and the challenges of achieving genuine connection.
Themes
LoveRelationshipDualityOnenessSelfIllusion
In practice
Example use cases
During a relationship counseling session to emphasize the individuality of partners.
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