Kids need to encounter kids like themselves - kids who can sometimes be crabby and fresh and rebellious, kids who talk back and disobey, tell fibs and get into trouble, and are nonetheless still likable and redeemable.
Judith ViorstRead
Lust is what keeps you wanting to do it even when you have no desire to be with each other. Love is what makes you want to be with each other even when you have no desire to do it.
Interpretation
Lust and love influence our desires in different ways, often impacting our relationships.
This quote highlights the distinction between lust and love in relationships. While lust can drive physical attraction and desire even in the absence of emotional connection, love fosters a deeper desire to be with someone even when physical attraction may wane. It emphasizes that a fulfilling relationship relies on emotional bonds rather than mere physical urges.
In practice
In a discussion about the complexities of relationships at a counseling session.
Kids need to encounter kids like themselves - kids who can sometimes be crabby and fresh and rebellious, kids who talk back and disobey, tell fibs and get into trouble, and are nonetheless still likable and redeemable.
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When we begin to believe that there is greater joy in working with and for others, rather than just for ourselves, then our society will truly become a place of celebration.
There is a reason why the other man thinks and acts as he does. Ferret out that reason — and you have the key to his actions, perhaps to his personality. Try honestly to put yourself in his place.
In God's family, there are no outsiders, no enemies.
My father always told me: 'Give somebody a hand and he'll take an arm.
I cannot assume you will understand me. It is just as likely that as I invent what I want to say, you will invent what you want to hear. Some story we must have. Stray words on crumpled paper. A weak signal into the outer space of each other. The probability of seperate worlds meeting is very small. The lure is immense. We send starships. We fall in love
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