Almost nobody believes anymore that infants are insensate blobs. It seems both mad and evil to deny experience and feeling to a laughing, gurgling creature.
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Maybe one of the most heartening findings from the psychology of pleasure is there's more to looking good than your physical appearance. If you like somebody, they look better to you. This is why spouses in happy marriages tend to think that their husband or wife looks much better than anyone else thinks that they do.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Attraction is influenced by emotional connection rather than just physical appearance.
This quote highlights how our perceptions of beauty are often shaped by our feelings for others. When we genuinely like someone, our appreciation for them deepens, leading us to see them as more attractive, which is particularly evident in the context of happy marriages where love magnifies physical appeal in the eyes of the partner.
Themes
LovePerceptionAttractionMarriageHappiness
In practice
Example use cases
In a wedding speech emphasizing the deeper bond of a couple, you might say, 'Remember, looking good to each other goes beyond just appearances.'
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