You fall out of your mother's womb, you crawl across open country under fire, and drop into your grave.
Quentin CrispRead
Mainstream people dislike homosexuality because they can't help concentrating on what homosexual men do to one another. And when you contemplate what people do, you think of yourself doing it. And they don't like that. That's the famous joke: I don't like peas, and I'm glad I don't like them, because if I liked them I would eat them and I hate them.
Interpretation
The quote discusses societal discomfort with homosexuality stemming from self-reflection and personal biases.
Quentin Crisp emphasizes that mainstream disapproval of homosexuality often arises from an inability to separate one's own actions from those they perceive others engaging in. This discomfort reflects a deeper existential engagement, where people project their aversions onto others, highlighting how personal biases shape societal norms and attitudes.
In practice
During a lecture on societal norms, one might quote Crisp to highlight the irrationality behind certain prejudices.
You fall out of your mother's womb, you crawl across open country under fire, and drop into your grave.
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The search for a life-style involves a journey to the interior. This is not altogether a pleasant experience, because you not only have to take stock of what you consider your assets but you also have to take a long look at what your friends call “the trouble with you.” Nevertheless, the journey is worth making.
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You are unique, and if that is not fulfilled, then something has been lost.
The problem to be faced is: how to combine loyalty to one's own tradition with reverence for different traditions.
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Most people, in fact, will not take the trouble in finding out the truth, but are much more inclined to accept the first story they hear.
Put God in your debt. Every stroke shall be repaid. The longer the payment is with-held, the better for you; for compound interest on compound interest is the rate and usage of this exchequer.
The good is, like nature, an immense landscape in which man advances through centuries of exploration.
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