A man always blames the woman who fools him. In the same way he blames the door he walks into in the dark.
Interpretation
Men often shift blame onto women when they are deceived, similar to how they blame objects like doors in the dark.
This quote reflects the tendency of individuals, particularly men, to externalize responsibility for their misfortunes or mistakes. H. L. Mencken draws a parallel between blaming a woman for being fooled and blaming a door in the dark for causing an accident, suggesting that it is easier for individuals to point the finger at others rather than reflect on their own actions or decisions that led to the situation.
In practice
In a discussion about accountability in relationships, I could use this quote to illustrate how people often deflect blame.
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He gave everything to everybody. Except to me.
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And with each step my heart broke for the person I would never find, the person who'd love me. And then I would remember I had a wife at home who loved me, or later that my wife had left me and I was terrirfied, or again later that I had a beautiful alcoholic girlfriend who would make me happy forever. But every time I entered the place there were veiled faces promising everything and then clarifying quickly into the dull, the usual, looking up at me and making the same mistake.
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There are many deaf people who couldn't imagine living in a marriage without someone who doesn't speak their language. For me, I believe that hearing or deaf is fine as long as both parties are willing to communicate in each other's language. But if there's no communication, then the marriage, I believe, will be difficult if not doomed.
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