Marriage has many pains, but celibacy has no pleasures.
Interpretation
Marriage can be challenging and comes with its difficulties, while remaining single may lack the joys that relationships can provide.
This quote by Samuel Johnson highlights the dual nature of romantic commitments. While marriage may bring about various struggles and challenges, opting for celibacy, or a life without romantic involvement, may lead to a lack of joyful experiences that companionship can offer. It subtly suggests that choosing not to engage in relationships comes with its own drawbacks, implying that the pains of marriage are preferable to the emptiness of solitude.
In practice
During a wedding speech, one might reflect on the challenges and joys of marriage with this quote.
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